Leverage your natural masculinity which she adores

Do you know that you have a superpower as a husband? It's your masculinity from within.

We, women, can try all we can to be good at anything, but on things that men are naturally good at, we can put in the same effort as men to learn and do them, and still yield lower results than men. Why is it? Because men and women were created uniquely different, yet perfectly complement each other. It’s that simple.

So here is a list of five ideas you can consider to fully optimize your advantage as a man, and be the husband your wife adores and can’t live without.

1. Polish your driving skills and aim to be the safest driver she has ever ridden with.

Whether you ride a motorcycle or drive a car or a lorry, always make sure you have a valid driving license with you all the time and that your vehicle is always well maintained. And no matter how experienced you think you are at driving, always drive with all the good practices of a safe driver – carry your driving license with you, put on your seatbelt all the time and remind your passengers to do the same, use your signal lights timely even if there’s no vehicle in front of or behind you, keep within the speed limit, never be reckless to speed pass a yellow traffic light or when overtaking other slower vehicles, be alert of your route and don’t switch lane last-minute just right before reaching the fork of the road, turn off your vehicle engine when you are refueling and don’t use your mobile phone at the petrol station, watch out for bumps and holes along the road – there are more safe practices than I could ever list out all here, but you get the point. Even if you are confident that you can make a turn without using the signal light, use it for her and other less confident road users. By the way, driving safely doesn’t mean driving slowly. You can increase your speed while still keeping your passengers feeling safe and comfortable while riding in your fast-moving vehicle.

2. Pick up the basic repair skills for your household items.

The Internet is full of all forms of informative instructions to fix and repair basic household items like changing the burnt light bulb in the shower room, unclogging the clogged toilet bowl, repairing the broken pipe at the kitchen sink, re-wiring the short-circuited multi-plug extension code, etc., anything. Just Google search or YouTube any of your questions and get a step-by-step tutorial or demonstration to solve these minor problems with household items. This basic manly skill is so crucial that I have one whole module in my advanced program dedicated to just going deep into upgrading husbands to be so excellent in this survival skill. Of course, my husband who is an expert in this is the coach for this program. You see, it’s easy to say you don’t know how to fix the problem and just call up a plumber or an electrician, but it’s a whole different level of amazement to wow your wife by fixing these little things at home. However, be wise to discern when it’s necessary to hire a professional service provider to solve some big problems timely. You don’t want to risk fixing some wiring issue that you have no confidence in even after reading and watching tutorials online.

3. Be there for her when she is afraid.

If she has to attend the funeral of a relative and she is not comfortable going alone, make time to go with her and assure her there is nothing to be afraid of. If she has to go somewhere requiring a long drive through an unfamiliar road, help her find an alternative to driving there alone on her own if you can’t be there with her, or make a reasonable arrangement for you to bring her there if it is doable at your side. If she is going through a difficult season going in and out of the hospital for her sick parents, be there with her if it is actually possible for you, because your presence can help her reduce so much pressure and emotional burden that she is bearing alone.

4. Be confident in living your role as the husband.

You need to know that as a husband, you are called to be her head, to lead her. Be proactive and prudent in managing the overall finances of your household – your income as well as your wife’s income. If you are earning less than your wife, figure out the reason for that – should you consider a better-paying job, are you underpaid, can you negotiate for better pay, are you overspending, is there a way to reprioritize your household spending, etc. Even if your wife is strongly opinionated, if she insists on something that you believe is not wise after considering her rationale behind it, be courageous to tell her that you disagree with her request or plan, and then respectfully explain your rationale. If you communicate openly and respectfully, your wife will be understanding enough to accept your point of view.

5. Be her spiritual leader.

Worship starts from home. Be intentional to pick a meaningful Scripture of the Day from the Bible and invite her to meditate with you over it together. You can start with our favorites: 1 Peter 4:8, Philippians 4:6-8, Jeremiah 29:11-13, and Colossians 3:12-13. As often as you can, invite her to pray together before you both sleep, for your marriage and families. Here are some simple prayer points:

• Thank God for the life, marriage, and family He has blessed you with.

• Forgiveness for each other.

• Wisdom and strength for you to lead the marriage and family.

• A wealth of love to love your wife.

• Fruitfulness for both of you, children, provision, blessings.

• Protection and health for your family.

• Revelation of God’s will for your family.

Here are some praise & worship songs to try:

• With a thankful heart

• The steadfast love of the LORD

• Forever

So, how was it?

I hope you try one, maybe two, or all of these tested ideas soon. Some of these may have already been part of your marriage routine.

Anyway, once you have taken action on this, come back and tell me, which of these ideas you have tried and how it turned out for you and your wife.

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